Ibu’s Picks : A dose of encouragement for the parenting soul

This is for the mum (and dads) who need a little pick-me-up, when the days are long and you just need some chicken soup (or ABC soup, in Malaysia) for the parenting soul. Here are some words of consolation from those who have been through the trenches and back. Because sometimes, we all could do with a little reminders and a pat on the back.

When you need to slow down.

When you’re having a bad day.

When you’re tired of giving.

When you worry if your kids are learning enough.

When you have everything to complain about.

When you’re feeling impatient for things to change.

When you feel judged (or tempted to judge).


Nursing nomad @ Jaya One / The School

Location: Ground floor, The School

Verdict: This is by far the most comfortable and well thought out babies room I’ve visited in a mall.

Photo below (left): The door on the left leads to a dedicated diaper changing area cum disabled toilet. The room with the glass door leads to the baby room which has space for changing diapers, making milk, and one nursing cubicle.

(right): The entrance itself is spacious and wide, with a motion activated sensor door. This is extremely convenient if you’re bringing a stroller or with toddlers in tow.

Diaper changing room: Cleanliness level is immaculate, 10/10

Photo below: Well-designed and child safe seat for toddler (left photo) and fold-down change table  (right photo) to keep your kids comfy and safe while doing the necessary. There’s also a sink with paper towels and soap dispenser provided. (No photo here).


Photo below (left): Toilet (in case mummy needs to go, too) is within the same room, which also serves as a disabled toilet.

(right): The fact that there’s a handlebar for the convenience of wheelchair users, is also very helpful for mummies right after giving birth who need a little help to push themselves up.


Baby room: This large room is separated into three areas – one for changing, one toddler bathroom and one nursing cubicle.

IMG_20150916_163601Drawback: The two diaper changing stations are located side by side with no room in between each other. So if two moms were to change their babies at the same time, the one on the left would not have space to place her essential stuff.

However, it is good that the diaper changing pads are right next to the sink. Makes washing up and cleaning much easier.

Photo below (left): View of the sink, right beside the diaper changing area. There’s soap dispenser, paper towel, and rubbish bin located conveniently nearby.

(right): A hot water dispenser is provided for you to heat up/ prepare your child’s milk or food.


Photo below (left) : toddler washroom

(right): nursing room. Check out the Orla Kiely wallpaper. Woot!



IMG_20150916_163643 Love the cute signage on the door to clarify the usage of the room for breastfeeding only, so that there’s no dispute arising about people hogging the room for other reasons.

The room is spacious, with a side table provided and a super comfy armchair that feels very ergonomic (for a petite person with short legs).

Very clean room.

Latch lock on the breastfeeding room door that makes me feel more secure

Plus points:

  • Two plug points in case you needed to charge your devices.
  • Mirror so that you can check that your clothing is rearranged properly before exiting, to avoid “wardrobe malfunctions” 😉
  • The lock on the door is a latch lock (which ensures that the room is properly secured) instead of the normal knob lock that can easily malfunction. (I’ve had that problem before!)

Minus points:

  • Lighting is a bit bright for baby’s eyes when feeding and looking up at the ceiling.

Overall, excellent facilities and well-maintained room. Definitely one of my favorites.

Ode to sleep training – Hey Rubz

See these helpful Sleep Charts that tell you how long baby should be asleep? Ignore them. Full of rubbish.
See these helpful Sleep Charts that tell you how long baby should be asleep? Ignore them. Full of rubbish.

A tune inspired by epic Sleep Wars when trying to train RJ to fall asleep on her own, sans sleep props. This is not a sleep training article and contains no advice/ methods/ sharing.

Context: She’s never been a good sleeper, especially in the day time. Once, when she was 3 weeks old, she stayed awake for 12 hours straight with no naps! That’s shocking for a newborn who is supposed to sleep for up to 18 hours a day!

Currenly at 4months + naptime is still a challenge. She is learning to transition from being fed/ rocked/ carried to sleep, to being able to fall asleep on her own.

Here’s to hoping we’ll see more success, soon…

Hey Rubz

(Sung to the tune of Hey, Jude)

Hey Rubz, don’t make it bad
Take a sad time and make it better
Remember to slow down your heartbeat
Then you can start to sleep better
Hey Rubz, don’t be afraid
You were made to fall asleep on your own
The minute you let your eyes close
Then you begin to fall asleep better

And anytime you feel the strain, hey Rubz, refrain
Don’t stay awake until you’re over tired
For well you know that it’s a fool who plays it cool
By making sleep a little harder
Nah nah nah nah nah nah nah nah nah

Hey Rubz, don’t let me down
You’re rubbing your eyes, now go and sleep
Remember to let her into your heart
Then you can start to make it better

So cry it out and sleep in, hey Rubz, begin
You’re waiting for someone to put you to sleep
And don’t you know that it’s just you, hey Rubz, you’ll do
The movement you need is on your shoulder
Nah nah nah nah nah nah nah nah nah yeah

Hey Rubz, don’t make it bad
Take a sad time and make it better
Remember to let yourself drift into sleep
Then you’ll begin to make it
Better better better better better better, oh

Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz

Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz
Nah nah nah nah nah nah, nah nah nah, hey Rubz [fade out]


Weekly Web Round-up (Vol. 2)

11958084_511861128987004_8629550546624705219_oRecommendation of the week is an upcoming event for all Malaysian parents who are interested in babywearing.

The upcoming IBW2015 will be held in One City Mall on 7 November. Mark your calendars!

If trying out carriers, getting troubleshooting advice, and standing a chance to win goodies doesn’t sound tempting enough, how much more thrilling can you get than wearing your little one while walking on the rooftop’s see through glass floor, ten storeys up?

You can check out more info on the Malaysian Babywearer’s Facebook Group page, as always.

Hope you’ve had a fabulous weekend, and here’s some link love for you:

Pig out at the #KLFTF Kuala Lumpur Food Truck Festival! Happens every first and third weekend of the month.

You’ll never guess what this cute School Bus themed craft is made from.

An inspiring read when you think you’re not up to par because “you’re not that mom”.

Travelling soon? Here’s how to make flying a little more comfy on little one’s ears.

Why does this random adorable song have over 2 million views? P.S. only breastfeeding mamas will get the part in 1:01.

Mummy Baby needs these moon night light/ lanterns.


The Superhero’s guide to being a mom

20150922193429Psst… Let me tell you a secret. You know the old saying that “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world”? Well, it’s literally true! We moms are superheroes in more ways than one. Here’s the inside scoop into the fantastic world of masked mothers.

We have supersonic hearing.

Forget Spidey’s “spider sense”. Our babies could whimper a mile away, and we would still hear it.  Sorry, dads, you’re genetically wired to not flinch when baby startles awake at night. There, I said it.

We have “mom armor”.

Move over, Ironman. Mom Armor, a.k.a Thick Skinned 2.0, enables you to withstand withering stares and judgmental comments from strangers. Oh the best part is, the armor auto upgrades as the kid gets older.

We do great deeds anonymously.

Ever wonder who covered you with a blanket when you shivered, closed the windows when it rained, replaced your favorite brand of juice in the fridge, and did all those million-and-one unseen things that make your life better? Yep, ’twas your friendly neighbourhood SuperMom.

We respond to every SOS.

Our track record makes Batman look bad, seriously. Who else can give so much of themselves, so effortlessly, even when they are in pain, tired, busy, or not in the mood. There’s no room for being a diva when you’re a mom.

Our courage quotient goes through the roof.

It takes monumental bravery to change poopy diapers, heat up milk one-handed, potty-train, sleep train, keep going when you’re dead beat, and all the other stunts that come as part and parcel of the job. If “like a girl” is an undeserved derogatory term, “like a mom” should be a badge of honor to describe acts of courage.

We can transform anything at the drop of a hat.

Forgot to bring your pump parts to work? Use a mineral water bottle. Didn’t bring your nursing cover out? Improvise with a scarf. Diaper accident with no supplies? Use newspaper to keep the seat stain-free. No toys? Use your imagination. Moms are the most innovative and ingenious problem solvers. Transformation geniuses who don’t even need a phone booth.

I can think of many other mom superpowers, such as the ability to function without sleep, incredible tolerance for pain, lightning speed multitasking, etc.

Being a mom is amazing. It makes us try harder, love fiercer, and be the best version of ourselves.

Here’s the thing, with great power comes great responsibility. And great hugs. For all the superhuman strength we exhibit everyday, we need only to snuggle into the embrace of our fuzzy little ‘uns to find all our reasons to be amazing. Go grab em, mother!